It was a Saturday night. I didn’t know why, but I had the sudden urge to call someone and have a nice conversation through the phone. Sure, my suitemates were all in, but they were doing homework, plus I wanted a conversation through phone.
I pulled out my phone and scrolled through the list of people I text on a constant basis. Should I call her? No, she’s probably out socializing with her friends. What about him? No, he never picks up his phone. What about her? Maybe I’ll try her instead!
I call… twice for good measure. She doesn’t pick up both times.
I sighed and returned to my list and continued debating whether I should call this person or not. After my first failed attempt, I basically talked myself out of calling anyone else because I was convinced that none of them would pick up because they were preoccupied with something. I gave up, set my phone down, and continued doing homework just like everyone else in my suite.
My friends aren’t ignoring me on purpose. That much I know. But with the convenience of texting and Facebook messaging, the art of conversation through phone has become somewhat obsolete. Ask a group of people to make a reservation at a restaurant through phone and see how many people are willing to do it. Most likely none. Many people don’t like talking through the phone thanks to text and social media. With technology, making reservations online is as easy as 1-2-3. Texting is much more convenient too. Texts do not require an immediate response and it’s much easier to convey certain thoughts through text rather than in-person.
But this convenience is making us lose the ability to connect and interact with people. Yes, texting is easier, but it’s just a bunch of words. You can’t immediately decipher the texter’s emotions or intents through… text (unless they’re a prolific user of Emoji).
And because texting has become the main medium to communicate with friends instantaneously and conveniently, it makes having a nice conversation through phone or in-person more difficult. Sometimes you just really need to talk to someone, and letting your emotions and thoughts out vocally feels so much better than typing it out on touchscreen.
One hour after I called my friend, she texted me an apology for missing my call and asked what’s up.
I sighed. You could’ve at least returned my call…